AN ADOPTEE SEARCH,
REUNION & HEALING JOURNEY

Encouragement, tips and resources for adoptees seeking to learn more about themselves, the journey and the process of reconnection.

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Hello and Welcome

Welcome to My Adopted Life. Here you will find resources on navigating adoption reunion and healing from identity-shattering events, like learning you are adopted, dealing with the shock of a DNA surprise, or discovering you are donor-conceived. I have been in reunion with both my birth mother and my late birth father since 2010. I blog about my life as a black market baby and managing reunions with adoptive family and biological relatives. I urge you to check out the resources section for links to books, talks, adoption support groups, and writing classes. 

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All the best,
Patricia Knight Meyer
Adoptee, Author, and Advocate for Adoption Reform

My Story

What one would call a Black Market Baby, my outside-the-system “adoption,” meant my “adoptive” parents never received my birth certificate, an adoption never took place, and the name I used never existed on any legal paperwork.

I was handed over along a Texas hospital curb in 1970 – no judge, agency, or paperwork required.  Through my own journey of uncovering the truth about my Black Market adoption, I discovered that a shady attorney sold me to my would-be parents and later extorted them out of thousands of dollars with the threat of taking back the baby. I wouldn’t obtain my first legal birth certificate until I was 47 years old.

Now, I’m watching history repeat itself, as vulnerable mothers face an expanding for-profit adoption industry valued at $30 billion dollars. With abortion rights restricted, more desperate women will stand at the mercy of a system designed to coerce and exploit them.

As an adoption reform advocate, and a relinquishee who has lived with the consequences of an illegal adoption, I speak and keynote at adoption conferences, appear on podcasts, and have written a memoir about my experience. I have a journalism degree from the University of Texas, a decade of experience as a book publicist, and my reunion video has 280,000 YouTube views. Thank you for stopping by. 

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Seeking representation

My memoir, WONDERLAND: A Black Market Baby’s Life Underground, is a finalist in the 2024 C&R Press Nonfiction Award and currently shortlisted for the Bakwin Unpublished Prose 2024 Award by Blair Publishing. My story centers around the lifelong impact of being sold on the black market, solving my mystery, and the crippling consequences of growing up with parents who lived with the fear that, at any moment someone could return to take back their baby.

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Who in the world am I? Ah, that’s the great puzzle.”

-Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

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