“Parallel Universes” by David B. Bohl – An Adoptee Memoir to Remember
Like the sailboats dotting David’s life, his story glides across the page; a sturdy hull gracefully parting the sea of his dark past, propelled by resilience, telltales of truth leading the way. A natural born storyteller, David’s prose washes the page with sobering detail. Like a tide, it ebbs and flows, navigating the jetties of his life.
10 Year Adoptee / Birth Father Reunion Anniversary: A Video Tribute
This is a video my daughter and I made in honor of our 10 year reunion with my birth father, who at 69 years old learned he had a daughter and grand daughter in this world. We all shared ten glorious years together, before his passing on Nov. 3, 2021. Though never given the opportunity […]
Our Alternate Universe: A Mother’s Day Letter to My Biological Step-Mother
From the moment we met, I knew you were not just my birth father’s wife, but that you’d somehow always been a mother I’d been missing. Nanny, the day I met you, I did not feel like you were going to become “like a mother to me,” I felt you already were. I immediately felt […]
The Day I Asked to Be Un-Adopted
“Please don’t be sad Mommy, but I figure I should live with Dora. She is not old like you, she has freckles like me, and she can give me a brother. See, I will be right there!” I said pointed through the slatted window panes across the side yard toward my future home. You can watch me play with my brother!” I assured her. “All you have to do is let Dora be my new mommy.”
A Memoir About an Adoption that Never Happened.
A memoir about an adoption that never happened. It is a black market baby’s story about the parents who held onto her as tightly as they did her secret, and the mother who let her go. It is about one woman’s walk home, a journey back to self, a healing of primal wounds, to claim her truth and correct her identity.
Adoptees & Divorce
Adoptees & Divorce: Had I known my adoption reunion would lead to my divorce, would I have done it anyway? To quote Anne Sexton, I sit here “on the spike of truth,” and I say ‘Yes, I would have.’ I can confirm that yes, there are significant divorce risks in adoption reunions and many hurdles […]
Finding My Birth Father
A year ago today, thanks to my birth mother Lina’s search for the truth and the man connected to it (and her sharing that information with me), I learned my birth father’s name is Jerry Knight. I learned one year ago, on this day, that he was alive and very much wanted to meet me. Within a few days I wrote him a letter and took the second step on my adoption journey.
Mirror Mirror
How Being an Adoptee and Single Parent Shaped My Parenting Style and Relationship With My Daughter
Harm Unintended
Acknowledging My Birth Mother’s Angst After Reading My Last Post
Adoption Reunions: Managing Expectations, Assimilating Birth and Adoptive Families
This past weekend was a big weekend. Jerry my birth father finally met my family. In the last seven months since our reunion, he had met his grand daughter Victoria, my husband and step son, a few of my closest girl friends, even Jack, Victoria’s father, but he had yet to meet a single solitary […]